The image you see below has been my view of the world every day since March 22. It is the image I will see for the next 4-6 weeks as my doctor has ordered me to have my foot elevated a minimum of 90% of the time for an optimal recovery.
The surgery I had was called Lisfranc fusion surgery. I’ll not bore you with the details knowing you can Google it if you would like. In essence, the injury was self-inflicted as a lifetime of basketball took their toll on my right foot.
When I had the surgery a few weeks ago I thought we might have another snowfall or two and wondered about getting my driveway and sidewalk shoveled. I figured with it being late March and into April for my recovery the temperatures after a snowfall would warm up quickly and there would be no need to shovel as it would simply melt quickly.
Yesterday, I read online that Minnesota recorded its coldest first week of April since records have been kept dating back to 1872, I believe. Needless to say, the couple of snowfalls we’ve had haven’t melted. On top of that one of them was a significant snowfall that required some heavy lifting. There are reports of a potential significant snowfall coming again this weekend!
Which brings me to the crux of today’s post. Asking for help is a difficult thing for me to do. In my mind, asking for help can be a sign of weakness. We live in a culture that has taught us to do things on our own and figure things out for ourselves. We’re taught to not bother others with our problems.
I’m afraid to be thought of as weak. I’m afraid to bother others with my issues. I need to figure these things out on my own.
What this really boils down to is an issue of pride. Pride, in this sense, is a feeling that I don’t need anyone else. Asking for help would require me to humble myself. Asking for help would require me to admit that I can’t do some things on my own.
What’s interesting in this scenario, though, is this; if the cast was on the other foot, so to speak, and someone else needed help, I would gladly do what I could to assist them. Allowing others to assist me isn’t quite as easy.
Do you struggle to let others help you? I can’t believe I’m the only one challenged by this quirk.
Today, I’m working up my courage to call some people to ask for help on a couple of projects that I simply can’t do.
How about you? Are there some things that you simply can’t do but you avoid them or put them off because they would require you to ask for help?
Most of the people I know in my life are helpers. They want to assist people when there is a need.
I need to have the courage to allow others to help me. Do you?
Have a STRONG and COURAGEOUS day!
